Blind Date 101

Have you ever found yourself in a blind date? A buddy of yours set you up with this girl that is a friend of his girlfriend? Yup that's it. The ultimate form of "friendly help" that single men get from their gang. Well let me tell you it's not easy. Unlike setting the date for yourself, you have no idea what the girl is like! And usually, your "friend" has no idea what you're looking for in a date. You're getting me aren't you?

So how do we deal with it? Well firstly blind dating is after all, still dating. It still follows the same rules of the dating game. Blind dates offer you the same chance of finding the right woman for you. In fact, there are a lot of instances that that has happened.


The first thing you should make sure when going on a blind date is to keep your expectations low. Yes, you heard me. Don't put your yet unknown date on a pedestal. Accept the fact that you may not have something common at all with this woman. This way you won't be too disappointed. I won't say expect it to turn out bad, I'm just saying keep an open mind. It's way better to be surprised than have your high hopes shot down.

Bearing that in mind, you should also give yourself the chance to at least know your date. Many men go to blind dates ready to disqualify the woman at once. As I've said before, try to keep an open mind. Don't look for the bad points immediately, don't judge them by what they wear, don't make an opinion before you actually talk to them. Find out what her personality is really like, you never know, you may have more common things with each other than you think.

Also remember that blind dates ARE first dates. If you turn out to actually like the girl then don't start falling into the popular first date mistakes.

The most popular is that you start pouring out your heart to the woman on a blind date. Remember that you still don't know her very well. Blind dates, as first dates, should be about getting to know each other's personality. But it doesn't mean too much to already taking away your sense of mystery.

You don't want to reveal everything about yourself, like your inner struggles and family troubles, because she'll think that you won't have anything else to bring next time. She may not want to see you again. Imagine what a wasted chance that would be seeing as you only met her on a blind date mate! So keep it cool man and just be your normal self. Not your emotion-hyped over sharing self.

Being yourself will show the real you. It's okay to be nervous on dates, more so on blind dates, just don't let it overpower you. Remember that your date is probably as nervous as you are. It's your responsibility to make her more comfortable and relaxed. You can't do that if you're a nervous wreck yourself.

Lastly, if you don't really like the date you were set-up with and have no intentions of seeing her again, tell her directly. This is to avoid mixed signals or misunderstood intentions. It's better to clear things out rather than have them backfire on you. Most single women go to blind dates with relatively lower expectations as well anyway. Besides women appreciate honesty. At least they would appreciate that more instead of the alternative of making them wait for nothing.

If you're not comfortable with meeting people for dates though, you could opt for online dating instead. With the internet, it's easy to use the services of an online dating site for you to meet your match. It's really like dating but on a digital space. It certainly has a higher chance of knowing your partner compared to blind dates. There are free online dating sites as well as paid ones. So just choose from any online dating service that you want and you're good to go!

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